On weakness
"I'm weak," says my best friend, and my heart breaks a little. Why is she claiming to be weak? Because she wants to talk to her ex. They broke up less than a week ago. I have to tell her this is not weakness. This is normal human fucking behaviour. We're so eager to pounce on what we perceive as flaws and weaknesses, especially when we see those flaws and weaknesses in ourselves. We don't often allow ourselves the kindness we offer to friends and loved ones. Why is this so? I don't know why it's so easy for us to forget that we are totally human, and that a moment of weakness does not in any way define us as weak people. If anything, it gives us an opportunity to show strength in the face of adversity. Just weathering the horrible stuff life throws at you, that in itself, I think, should be enough to make yourself feel that you are pretty damn badass. Don't ever question that. What do you do to handle those moments of weakness?